Saturday, August 16, 2014

Niqab Tutorial


This niqab style will look elegant and at the same time, stay on for almost hours without moving (with normal activity), in shaa Allah! <3


THINGS YOU'LL NEED:

1. Rectangular hijab/dupatta/head-scarf
I use a regular chiffon dupatta (2.75 yards) by folding its breadth in half to make it less see-through.
2. Three safety pins
I use regular steel ones but you can use hijab-friendly ones.
3. Two dress pins
Also known as straight hijab pins.
4. Under-cap

STEP 1:
After tying your hair and wearing your hijab cap, put your head-scarf over your head (already folded if using you're using a chiffon dupatta), keeping one side shorter than the other. The shorter side will be used to make niqab.



STEP 2:
Throw both sides behind you and tie them with a safety pin at the point where the hijab cap ends.

STEP 3:
Bring both sides to the front again. Now make niqab with the short side. Holding the rectangular cloth in front of you, take one side of it and tie it behind your ear, with a saftey pin, securing it through your hijab and hijab cap. Do the same with the other end. By the end of this step, you should have a niqab on your face and the long side should be hanging loose.
(Don't worry about the ugly saftey pins, we'll cover them up with the longer side)

STEP 4:
Bring the long side around your head to the opposite side.

STEP 5:
Pin the long side on top of your head with two dress pins, one on each side of your head, so the hijab stays in place.

TADA! YOU'RE DONE.

This tutorial can be found on my Instagram profile @sarahmnm, this web version is for the convenience of those who don't have Instagram accounts.
All doodles are my own.
Made with Samsung Galaxy Sketchbook.

Monday, June 30, 2014

#Day1: 30 Happy Days

Day 1
Al-Baqara : 45

وَاسْتَعِينُوا بِالصَّبْرِ وَالصَّلٰوةِ ۚ وَإِنَّهَا لَكَبِيرَةٌ إِلَّا عَلَى الْخٰشِعِينَ

And seek help through patience and prayer, and indeed, it is difficult except for the humbly submissive [to Allah]

We didn't choose our gender, our parents or our appearance. Allah created us the way He wanted. This points to the fact that we are ever enslaved toour Rabb. We are ever in need of our Master. We, as slaves, are not independent of Allah and we, thereby, need help.
A slave's got two tools to help him out:
1. Patience
2. Prayer

The two are mutually inexclusive. One cannot pray without sabr and one cannot have sabr without praying for it. And salah and sabr are the essence of 'ibadah.
Salah and sabr are ONLY difficult for the ones who are not humbly submissive, khashi'een.

May Allah grant us khushoo' during salah and outside salah. May He make us from those who observe sabr in all aspects of life. May He make us from the observers and preservers of salah. Ameen.


Note: 
This series was discontinued due to personal reasons.

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Time

I begin by praising and glorifying Allah subhana wa ta'ala, The Rahman, The Raheem and by sending salawat on His Messenger, peace be upon him and his family.


This surah, subhanAllah, is of the most beautiful words of Allah. Only three verses long, it is one of the three shortest surahs of the Quran. The following words said by Imam Shafi'i rahimahUllah summarize my sentiments for the surah:
“لو تدبر الناس هذه السورة لوسعتهم”
“If people were to ponder on this chapter, it would amaze them.”
“لو لم ينزل إلى الناس إلا هي لكفتهم”
“If this was the only chapter sent to humanity, it would suffice them.”
“الناس في غفلة من هذه السورة”
“People are negligent of this chapter.”
-Imam Shafi'i

It is the summary of the purpose of our life, it is the essence of the message of the Messenger, it is the soul of Allah's commands. The passing by of time is the description of this life, it is the description of our very existence. Time is an endowment. It is fixed by its very nature. We cannot change the amount of time we have to live on this Earth, we cannot change the time of our death just like we didn't choose the time of our birth. It is the very constitution of our slavery to Allah, al Awal, al Akhir, as Samad. "Verily, we are from Allah, and to Him is our return." [2:156]
Our purpose in life is to be achieved through making the best use of this time. Three actions are prescribed in this Surah: 
1. Doing righteous deeds
2. Advising to truth
3. Advising to patience
Each of these are to be done in accordance with the beautiful sunnah of our beloved Rasul ul Allah peace be upon him. 
If we fail to do the three golden acts prescribed in this chapter, we will indeed be in loss. All mankind is in loss, except those who adhere firmly to the three golden acts. 
The third is a need for the first two to be implemented. It is not just a consequence but also a pre-requisite. Sabr is of the qualities of the believers. Through sabr, one is able to attain the love of the Beloved and al Wadud, the Loving. "O you who are patient! Bear a little more, just a little more remains." -Ibn al Qayyim



"Patience is that the heart does not feel anger towards that which is destined, and that the mouth does not complain." Ibn al Qayyim 

*This is not a tafseer of the surah, it is just a piece of my reflections on the surah.
*My words don't do justice to how beautiful the surah really is, one could write a book on the wonders of these verses. Click here for a tafseer. 

Friday, April 11, 2014

How to stop listening to music?

The problem with a lot of us today is that even though we know something is impermissible we cannot distance ourselves from it.  It is true that most us cannot take the first step even when we are absolutely sure what we're doing is haram. We keep delaying our tawbah to the next day without realizing that tomorrow isn't certain, we might not be alive and it might be too late to repent. Music is one such sin. The point of this post to help you stop listening to music and overcoming the urge of going back to it.



1. Make tawbah
Making mistakes and falling short are undoubtedly a part of human nature and no one will be free of shortcomings in his or her obedience to Allaah, or free of mistakes or forgetfulness or sins. All of us fall short, commit sins, and make mistakes. Sometimes we turn to Allaah and sometimes we turn away from Him. Sometimes we remember that Allaah is watching and sometimes we become negligent. None of us is free of sin, and we will inevitably make mistakes. We are not infallible. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if you did not commit sin Allaah would do away with you and bring people who would commit sin then pray for forgiveness." Narrated by Muslim, 2749. 
And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Every son of Adam sins, and the best of those who sin are those who repent.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2499; classed as hasan by al-Albaani. 
Allah says in the Quran:
“O you who believe! Turn to Allaah with sincere repentance!” [al-Tahreem 66:8] 
So the first step to abstain from any sin should always be tawbah. Interestingly, tawbah is not just saying astaghfirUllah or saying "Oh Allah forgive me!". Rather, tawbah needs more than just that to get accepted. There are essentially three conditions of tawbah:
Firstly, you should give up the sin, secondly, you should regret having done it and thirdly, you should resolve to never go back to it.
If you fulfill these conditions and then you get waswasas (whispers) suggesting that your repentance is not accepted, then know that its Shaytaan who is trying to put you down. Hope for the best from Allah because Allah says in the Quran:
“And He it is Who accepts repentance from His slaves, and forgives sins, and He knows what you do” [al-Shoora 42:25] 

2. Eliminate the source
If its your phone or iPod, just press that DELETE ALL button. Empty your music library and un-like all those singers and musicians on Facebook and Instagram.

I know, I know this is very difficult. But let me tell you what, getting to Jannah ain't a piece of cake either. So how will this help? You will have to Google your music if you don't have it downloaded. That would make the process at least a teeny tiny bit difficult, in shaa Allah. This is a great step to get you started. It's like washing away yourself of all the dirt.

I know you're strong and you can beat Shaytaan on this one. JUST PRESS DELETE!

3. I've deleted all the music, now what?!
What do you do with all the time you have? You have to listen to something right? You're craving music...
Replace music with the recitation of Quran. Wallahi, there is nothing more beautiful than the recitation of the Quran. There are so many qaaris to choose from. For beginners I recommend Qaari Mishary al-Afasi.

Download a Quran app in your phone if you don't already have one, 'Mp3 Quran' (android) offers a wide range of qaaris to choose from. Download 'Quran Reciter' in your laptop/pc. Make sure you have access to the recitation of the Quran at all times. Buy CDs for your car. Next time you want to listen to some music, play some Quran in your ears instead. It will make all the worries vanish and will make you feel at peace. Quran is the word of Allah,  IMAGINE ALLAH TALKING TO YOU! Could there be anything more awesome than that?

Doing so comes with infinite rewards and benefits. Imagine the Quran interceding for you on the Day of Judgement and your ears witnessing in favour of you. <3

Check out some awesome Qiraat here: mp3quran.net

4. What about nasheeds?
Nasheeds are like Islamic songs. Add some nasheeds in your music library. Make sure you find the ones with no musical instruments and the ones with halal lyrics. Some popular nasheed artists include Zain Bhika, Dawud Wharnsby, Mishary Al-Afasy, Talib Al-Habib and Omer Esa.

Don't listen to nasheeds more often than the Quran though. Listen to a nasheed only when multitasking or when you cannot concentrate entirely on what is being said. Nasheeds will help raise your imaan but not as much as the Quran. Nothing can beat the Quran in beauty either.

5. What else can I listen to?
You can listen to inspirational talks that can motivate you towards more good deeds in shaa Allah. Ustadh Noman Ali Khan, Abdul Nasir Jangda, Dr. Bilal Philips, Bilal Asad, Yusha Evans, Tawfique Chaudary, Sister Yasmin Mogahed are all great speakers ma shaa Allah.

6. What about my habit of singing to myself?
It seems difficult to conquer this one habit, but its not impossible. Shaytaan will bring back your past, he'll remind you of your sins. But you know you've made tawbah. So what to do?
-Say aa-'udhubIllahi minashaiytaanirajeem, that will make Shaytaan go away.
-Start dhikr (remembrance) instead, e.g. SubhanAllahi walhamdulIllahi la illaha illAllahu wAllahu akbar or recite the Quran or 'humm' a du'a. One of my teachers used to make us learn du'as in tarteel, so we could humm du'as instead of singing those ugly songs.

On the Day of Judgement you will be really happy to see all that reward in shaa Allah, of abstaining from something as evil as music and doing good instead. May Allah help us, forgive us and have mercy on us, ameen.


May He accept my effort and grant me ikhlaas.
Any khayr is from Allaah and any evil is from me.

Keep dropping by in shaa Allah! <3

Here's a video of Ustadh Noman Ali Khan on music:


8 myths about my Hijab...

This post is a compilation of some very common myths about hijab/niqab, which aren't true.

1- You have a superiority complex. You think you are a better Muslim than me.
Actually, no. I harbor no such thoughts because I know the sins I commit. I know my shortcomings and weaknesses. Allah covers them up through His Mercy.  Therefore, I do not think I (or any random hijabi) is better than any non-hijabi sister. But, I do think that: wearing a Hijab (in obedience to Allah and His Messenger) is better than not wearing a hijab (in disobedience to Allah and His Messenger). There’s a subtle difference.

2- You’re such a perfect Muslim. I wish I could be as good as you.

You actually also get these appreciative commenst from people who assume that you’re a very good Muslim. Just because I’m obeying Allah in this one obvious aspect doesn’t mean I’m doing the same in the 101 other things too. This is a potentially dangerous myth. Because yes, I do try, but when I slip, (which I often do!) you subconsciously blame the Hijab or generalize Hijabis. Whereas the fault in this case actually lies with the driver, not the car (i.e. with the Hijabi and not her Hijab).

3- You don’t like to dress up/ You’re not dressed up.
 I do admit that I sometimes throw an abaya over my sleeping suit if I have to run out to get some groceries. But when you say that at weddings and parties, that’s not true. Peekaboo. Here, have a look at the latest kaam wala jora I’m wearing underneath my abaya. I love to dress up. But I do not love being eye-candy for non-mehram eyes. So, I simply cover up the beauty and adornment. However, if its an all-girls party, I can dress to kill.

4- You are forced by someone to wear this.

I’m not forced by my family members or anyone else. In fact, it’s the other way round. I actually had to struggle a lot and go against my family to wear this. It remains an ongoing battle. I’m only forced by my belief in the Quran and Sunnah.

5- It must be very hot and uncomfortable in there.
Thankyou, I’m comfortable enough. I try and use lighter, more airy fabrics in summers. It is probably one degree hotter in here, but you get acclimated to it pretty soon.  It’s much more comfortable than heavy make-up, stiletto heels and false nails. And, the real thing is: “Say: the fire of Hell is hotter.” (Surah at-Tauba:81)

6- You’re a dimwit / brainwashed.

Seriously? Just because I choose to cover up? 
Actually, I'm a student at one of the best universities in my country and I sometimes get the best marks in class (and I say that in all humility and gratitude, Alhamdolillah,mashaa Allah). I’ve been trying to study and research the Quran and Hadith in depth too. I act based upon my own convictions. I’m not brainwashed by any patriarchal sources.
You need to bring forth logic and proof instead of hollow cliches and shallow labels, similar to the ones thrown at each other on some Pakistani talk shows.
7- Your life must be boring and restricted.
Hahaha! Some of the things I’ve been learning and having fun with, with my Hijab on,  are painting,  exercising and nail art. I love to explore and travel. The hijab doesn't restrict me from having the time of my life.
8- You won’t get a good proposal.
Oh well, I don’t have a handsome hunk of a husband to whack this myth away (yet). But open your eyes and look around. Are all the non-hijabis happily married? And are all the hijabis sitting and moping, forever alone?
You know what the funniest part is: Meanwhile in Mars, the poor bearded Martians are being spooked by the same myth: You won’t get a good proposal.
Strange times!
This post would actually be funny if it wasn’t sad. It’s really sad to see how we create stereotypes, generalize and make assumptions. Having been at the receiving end of these and other nonsensical myths, I can truly empathize with what our non-hijabi sisters have to hear from some quarters too.
So the final point is: Do not judge a girl by her cover (or lack of it!).
THIS POST IS SLIGHTLY EDITED

Credits:
VISIT THE YOUTH CLUB BLOG HERE: Youth Club Blog
FIND THE ORIGINAL POST (by Sister Umm Ibrahim)  HERE: 8 myths about my HIjaab

Sunday, April 6, 2014

Signs of The Hour by Br. Fareed Ahmad

A compilation of the signs of Qiyammah discussed by Br. Fareed in one of his talks at Youth Club Lahore: 

-People claiming to have known the Hour

-Coming of the final Messenger SAW

-Emergence of the false prophets ['Among my Ummah there will be 27 liars and impostors (27 prominent and famous ones else there are many who have claimed to be the final prophet Na'auzubillah), of whom 4 will be women. However, I am the seal of the prophets and there will be no prophet after me.' Narrated in Ahmad]

-Splitting of the moon

-Appearance of fire in Hijaz
[One of the signs of the Hour which the Messenger of Allah SAW spoke of was the emergence of a fire from the land of Hijaz, near Madeenah Al-Munawwarah. Some of the scholars and historians have stated that this sign appeared in 654 AH.
Al-Hafiz Ibn Katheer, speaking about this event, said, 'The appearance of a fire in Hijaz, which illuminated the necks of camels in Busra.']

-Excessive killing

-Land of Arab will turn green again. (Dubai, Saudi Arabia does not look like a desert anymore.)

-Race in making tall buildings

-The buildings of Makkah becoming high

-Removal of mountains from their places (e.g. For construction purposes, the motorway is a true example.)

-Trust will be lost.
[The Prophet SAW said, 'When honesty is lost, then wait for the Hour.' The companion asked, 'When honesty is lost?' The Prophet SAW said, 'When authority is given to those who are not qualified for it, then wait for the hour. Bukhari.]

-People will become indifferent. *They won't greet: They will only greet those whom they know, and they will forego greeting those whom he does not know even though it's Sunnah to spread the greetings of Salam among those whom you know and those whom you do not know.
*Bystanders effect:
1. Diffusion of responsibilities: When we know something is bad, Muslims are being suffered, starved and killed throughout the world but we think this Ummah is so big, maybe someone else will take the lead. We just hope and sit down.
2. Audience inhibition: When we know someone is in need of help but we are not sure how to help and to escape from embarrassment, we decide not to help at all.

-Following the ways of those before
[Abu Saeed Al Khudri said: The messenger of Allah SAW said: 'You will follow the ways of those who came before you, handspan by handspan, cubit by cubit, even if they were to enter the hole of a lizard, you will follow them.]

-Spread of indecency

-Ignorance will prevail

-More women than men
[Anas ibn Malik narrated that the Messenger of Allah SAW said, 'The hour will not begin (or one of the signs of the hour) until knowledge is taken away, ignorance prevails, alcohol is drunk, Zina becomes widespread and men disappear and women are left, until for every fifty women there will be one man to look after them.']
The reason given by some for this is the existence of the turmoil in which many men will be killed, as it is men and not women who usually engage in warfare.

-Adultery, fornication and music becoming common

-Materialistic approach
Not caring about the source of wealth whether halal or haram

-The coming of a time when a man will be given the choice of being labelled incompetent or committing immorality
This sign is apparent in our own times, where a woman who adheres to Hijab is accused of being incompetent or backward, the one who refrains from Riba (usury), taking bribes or watching indecent channels is described by people as being backward and incompetent and unable to progress. So people in society are given a choice between committing immorality and sin or being described as incompetent and backward.
[Abu Hurairah RA narrated that the Messenger of Allah SAW said, 'There will come a time when a man will be given the choice between being labelled incompetent and immorality. Whoever lives until that time should choose incompetence over immorality.']

-Obedience to wives and disobedience to mothers
Being comfortable with friends and repelling fathers

-Slave will give birth to her master
(People have misinterpreted different meanings of this sign)
1. When sons will treat mothers like maids.
2. It is also said that the slave women will give birth to kings, so the mother would become one of the subjects and the king (her son) would be the master of his subjects (including her mother).
3. When a free man becomes intimate with his female woman, who, as a result of this, gives birth to his child. The child grows up free, his father is already free, but his mother remains in bondage. Due to this, it is as if the child is also the master of his mother.


-Sudden deaths (accidents, heart attacks, etc)

-Depression, confusion
The coming of a time when a man will be a believer in the morning and a disbeliever in the evening.

-Time will pass very quickly.

-No one wanting to lead Salah

-Rain will fall from the sky but the earth will not bring forth anything (no productivity)

-Increase in Earthquakes

-Obesity and other luxuries
(People are dying because of food, either the lack of it or the excess)

-Increase in wealth

SIGNS YET TO COME

-Dajjal

-Eesa ibn Maryam coming down and killing Dajjal

-Ya'jooj Ma'jooj emerging

-Ya'jooj and Ma'jooj dying because of some illness

-Peace prevailing (wolves playing with sheep)

-Wind causing believers to die.

-Sun rising from the west (after this sign, the doors of repentance will close) 

Compiled by a very dear sister Quratulain Dar.


Friday, March 7, 2014

12 reasons why I love my Hijaab

1. It makes me different and also makes me feel really safe and cool! 

2. Niqab/Hijab remind me that I have to give preference to Allah's order over my whims/desires.

3. I love my hijab because it's not only pleasing to our Rabb but it aslo commands respect and my niqab adds extra modesty and protection.

4. When people see me, they see me as Muslim. I choose how to define myself rather than letting others define me.

5. I like that the struggle to wear it correctly amidst all that's on atm is a jihaad in itself. I like the feeling of being able to sacrifice for the sake of Allah. Truly, that's a blessing. I like how it makes me stand out, makes me unique, different in a worthy manner. I like (in all modesty) how it makes me mysterious to them curious eyes *evil grin* lol.

6. I love my Niqab more every single second as people around me are trying to stop me from wearing one, which is some how making me closer to my Lord, Allah subhanu wa ta'la ♥

7. I believe it gives a person this certain character, if you talk about non religious reasons.

8. I love my niqab because it's like a force field that makes it difficult for me to forget who I am. I love my niqab because it is like a filter. It drains out all the negative people and separates them from the positive ones.

9. Hijab gives me a sense of security and restricts me from my nafs' desires. I keep getting reminded that I do this for Allah and the best success is the hereafter. Also bad hair day is not a problem anymore.

10. Umm I don't have to style my hair! Wheww.. what a relief! Also I see respect reflected in the eyes of na-mahrams. I feel safe and confident!

11. It provides me a sense of security  And I love this feeling Alhamdulillah.. Wallahi I feel so protected and confident when I am in hijab.

12. The feeling when holding my abaya while climbing stairs makes me feel no less than a queen, AlhamdulIllah! ^.^



These beautiful reasons were given by girls on my Facebook and Instagram. JazakIllahu khayran katheera to those who participated and the ones reading this. 
May Allah accept from me and you! 


Any khayr (good) in this post is from Allah and any evil is from me.


Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Why is Salaah important?


Do not ever abandon your prayer because Salaah:
1- Increases Rizq
2- Increases health
3- Repels harm
4- Safe guards against illness
5- Strengthen the heart
6- Brightens the face
7- Raises the spirit
8- Cures lethargy
9- Stretches the limbs
10- Strengthens the body
11- Expands the chest
12- Nurtures the soul
13- Illuminates the heart
14- Guarantees Grace
15- Removes hardship
16- Invites blessing
17- Restrains the devil
18- Connects you to the Lord of Mercy
(Ibn ul Qayyim)

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Easy or Hard?

Is observing Hijab as easy-peezy-lemon-squeezy as people think it is? Is it as hard as people think it is?
The answer really is, its neither that easy nor that hard. It really depends on your intention for wearing it and on how you wear it. If you wear it for His sake, its very easy, but if you wear it so that people may be pleased with you, know that people will never be pleased with you and in that case, its really hard.

Taking the first step is the most difficult and the first few days, sometimes months are for some girls the worst of their lives. All the questions, stares, looks, vibes coming from the people you love, you hangout with, from your family, your 'friends'. These are people and they will always let you down when you do something for Allah. The right thing to do at this point is then to only think of your intention, to renew it every now and then. You know that if you let people's reactions get to you and you think too much about them, you may end up hating your hijab and throwing it away. Just don't let that happen.

If you think you're going the wrong way, the first step is to remind yourself of your purpose in life. Allah says in Surah Mulk Verse 2:
"[He] who created death and life to test you [as to] which of you is best in deed - and He is the Exalted in Might, the Forgiving."
We know that this life is a TEST and we have to work towards being the best in deed. The question therefore is: How can we be the best in deed, in order to pass this test and thereby attain perfection? The best way to do a good deed is with Ikhlaas, doing it purely for the sake of Allah, this is the second step

The third step is doing what is beautiful, that is Ihsaan. We find the most the most beautiful definition of Ihsaan in the Hadith of Jibrael, the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "(it is) to worship Allah as if you can see Him, for if  you cannot see Him, know that He nonetheless sees you." This implies that we have to be conscious of Allah whenever doing anything for His sake. We should not worry about how people react, rather we should concern ourselves with pleasing Allah at all times and in all situations. Think about what He thinks of you not about what they think of you.

So at the end of the day, how easy or how hard you find hijaab to be depends on how you view it.







Friday, November 22, 2013

Loving each other for the sake of Allah

This story will make you weep :')

"Zainab was the beautiful, beloved and eldest daughter of the Noble Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him). Abu al-’Aas was her cousin, the nephew of her mother Khadeeja (may Allah be pleased with her). He was one of the nobles of the Quraish, and a young family member whom the Prophet (peace be upon him) loved very much.

Before the Prophet (peace be upon him) received Prophethood, Abu Al Aas one day came to him. He had a request and with an earnest and hopeful voice, he said:
“I wish to marry your eldest daughter.”
The Noble Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) graciously replied: “I must ask her first.”
So he went to sit with his dear daughter Zainab and casually broached the subject, “Your cousin came to see me today and he wishes to marry you. How do you feel about this? And would you accept him as your husband?”

So similar in nature and disposition to her father, Zainab remained silent and her beautiful young face turned red out of bashfulness but… she smiled. A smile indicating her acceptance.

Zainab was married to Abu al-’Aas and so began the tale of a great love story. Their union was blessed with two children, Ali and Umaymah.
During the period of time when Muhammad became a Prophet, his son in law Abu al-’Aas was away from Makkah on business. After his business trip, Abu al-’Aas returned to find that his beloved wife was now a Muslim. Not long after he had returned, Zainab, unable to contain her excitement of being a Muslim, said to him,
“I have great news for you”.
Perhaps sensing that it would be something difficult to deal with, Abu al-’Aas stood up and walked away from her. Zainab was surprised but she followed him as she said,
“My father became a Prophet and I have become a Muslim.”
His reply was one of incomprehension and incredulity, “Why didn’t you tell me first?”
For the first time in their marriage, there ensued a big problem and difference between the two; a problem of religion and belief.
She told him firmly, “I wasn’t going to disbelieve in my father and his message. You know he is not a liar, he is “As Sideeq and Al Ameen/The Honest and Trustworthy”.” Trying to convince him that her decison had being the right one, she continued, “I’m not the only believer. My mother and my sisters became Muslims too. My cousin Ali ibn Abi Talib became a Muslim, your cousin Uthman ibn Affan became a Muslim, and your friend, Abu Bakr, has also become a Muslim.”
Overwhelmed by all that she was saying, he replied, “Well, as for me, I don’t want people to say, ‘he let his people and his forefathers down, just to please his wife’.
But because he loved his wife Zainab, as well as his father in law, Muhammad (peace be upon him), he continued softly, “And I am not accusing your father of anything. So will you excuse me and understand?”
Zainab could only respond as her heart dictated her too, “Who will excuse and understand you if I don’t? I will stay beside you and help you until you reach the truth.”
And she kept her word for 20 years.

Abu al-’Aas remained an unbeliever, and then came the mandatory migration from Makkah to Madinah. Zainab unsure of what she needed to do, went to her father and sought his permission to stay behind and remain with her husband. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), understanding the plight of his daughter responded,
” Yes, you may remain with your husband and children”.
So Zainab continued to live in Makkah, as a Muslim, with her non Muslim husband until the time drew nearer for the battle of Badr. Abu al-’Aas was to fight in the army of the Quraish against the Muslims. For Zainab, it meant that her husband would be fighting against her father. Undoubtedly a time Zainab had always feared. In prayer she kept crying out:
“O Allah, I fear that day the sun will rise and my children will become orphans or the day I will lose my father and become an orphan”.
The battle of Badr began and ended in victory for the Muslims. Abu Al-Aas was one of those captured by the Muslims, and news of this reached Makkah. Zainab hesitantly asked,
“How is my father? What has happened to him?”
She was told, ” He is unharmed and the Muslims won”.
Then she asked again hesitantly: “How is my husband? What has happened to him?”
To this she was told: “He was captured.” So she prayed to Allah expressing deep gratitude to Him for protecting them both and answering her prayers and said, “I’ll send something in payment to release him.”
She didn’t own anything of much value, except the necklace that had once belonged to her mother Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her). So she took it off and sent it with Abu al-’Aas brother to purchase the freedom of her husband.
While the Prophet (peace be upon him) was sitting, taking payments and releasing captives, his eyes fell on his beloved late wife’s necklace. He held it up and asked:
“Whose payment is this?”
It was said: “ Abu al-’Aas ibn Rabee.”
At this the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) cried out, his voice heavy with emotion “This is Khadeeja’s necklace.”
As soon as the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) saw the necklace, he was engulfed in a moment of extreme sadness and his heart filled with overwhelming emotion at the memories which flooded his mind and the moment. The Companions who were present there gazed in amazement having being captivated by the magnitude of such an emotional situation.
After what seemed to be a long silence, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) stood up and said,
“O my people, this man is my son in-law. Should I release him? And would you accept the return of this necklace to my daughter?”
Being a part of the intense moment, they all answered in unison “Yes, O Messenger of Allah!”
The Prophet (peace be upon him) then gave the necklace to Abu al-’Aas and said to him,
“Tell Zainab not to give away Khadeeja’s necklace.”
Thereafter he (peace be upon him) quietly added,
“Abu al-’Aas, Can we speak privately?”
He took him aside and softly spoke, “Allah has ordered me to separate a Muslim and a disbeliever, so could you please return my daughter to me?”
Abu al-’Aas still having great respect for his father in law-Muhammad (peace be upon him), reluctantly agreed.

In the meanwhile Zainab stood at the gates of the outskirts Makkah waiting for the arrival of her beloved husband Abu al-’Aas When he finally came he simply said,
“I am going away”.
Shocked she asked him, “Where to?”
He replied, ” Rather it is not me who is leaving, it is you. You are to return to your father. It is as he has requested. We must separate because you are a Muslim.”
Anguish, hurt and pain at the thought of being separated from her dear husband, she implored him, “Won’t you become a Muslim and come with me?” But tragically he refused.
So Zainab took her son and daughter and travelled to Madinah. For 6 years she refused to remarry, hoping that one day Abu al-’Aas would come.
After these 6 years had passed, Abu A-’Aas was travelling in a caravan from Makkah to Syria. During the journey, he was intercepted by some of the Prophet’s companions. He managed to escape and asked for Zainab’s home. He knocked on her door shortly before the dawn prayer. She opened the door and happily exclaimed,
“Have you become a Muslim?”
He shook his head and whispered “No, I have come as a fugitive.”
She implored him once more “Won’t you become a Muslim?”
As it had been before, so was it again. He answered in the negative.
No matter the time and heartbreak, he remained to be her kin, father of her children and still beloved to her heart. She said,”Do not worry. Welcome my cousin, welcome, the father of Ali and Umaymah.”
After the Prophet (peace be upon him) had prayed the dawn prayer in congregation with the people, a voice was heard a voice from the back of the mosque,
“I have freed Abu al-’Aas ibn Rabee.”
It was the right and priviledge of those to free kith and kin, if they so wished. And so Zainab had granted Abu al-’Aas freedom.
The Prophet (peace be upon him), addressing the congregation asked, “Have you heard what I have heard?”
They all replied in unison, “Yes, we have Oh Messenger of Allah.”
Zainab then continued, “He is my cousin and the father of my children and I have freed him.”
The Prophet (peace be upon him) stood up and said, “O people, I declare that this man was a very good son-in-law, he never broke his promise, and neither did he tell lies. So if you accept, I will return his money back to him and let him go. If you refuse, it’s your decision and I will not blame you for it.”
The companions themselves, as kind hearted as their Prophet, agreed, “We will give him his money and grant him his freedom.”
So the Prophet (peace be upon him) said looked towards his daughter Zainab and said, “We have freed the one you have freed, O Zainab.”
Then he (peace be upon him) walked to where she stood and quietly said to her, “Be generous to him, he is your cousin and the father of your children, but don’t let him get near you as a husband. For he is a disbeliever and that is prohibited for you.”
She replied, “Yes, Oh my father, I will certainly do as you say.”
She returned to her home, where her husband, still thinking that he is a fugitive, was waiting. She addressed him searchingly and said, “O Abu al-’Aas, didn’t you miss us at all? Won’t you become a Muslim and stay with us?”
But he sadly once again he refused. Abu al-’Aas then thanked her for her help, took his money and returned to Makkah.
Upon returning to Makkah, he addressed the people and announced,
“O people, here is your money. Is there anything left? Anything else that I was supposed to return to you?”
They replied, “No, Abu al-’Aas, there is nothing left.” And thanked him for his assistance in carrying out their trade journey to Syria.
Abu al-’Aas’ honour had been satisfied that he owed no one and he loudly proclaimed, “I testify that there is no god but Allah, and that Muhammed is His Messenger.” After all these years as well as separation from his beloved wife, he had finally brought Imaan/ Faith and accepted Islam.
In excitement and anticipation, he hurriedly returned to Madinah and ran to meet the Prophet (peace be upon him). Breathless from the excitement of his reversion and journey, he reached the Prophet and said, “Dear Prophet of ALLAH, you freed me yesterday, and today I say to that I have testified that there is no god but Allah and you are His Messenger.”
Without skipping a beat he continued and asked the Prophet (peace be upon him), “Will you give me permission to go back to Zainab? For me to be her husband once again?”
The Prophet (peace be upon him), with tears in his eyes smiled and responded, “Come with me.”
Together, father and son in law made their way to Zainab’s house and knocked on her door.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) called out to his daughter saying, “O Zainab, your cousin has accepted Islam and he came to me and asked if he can return to you as your husband”.
Just like twenty years before, her face turned red out of bashfulness and modesty and she simply smiled.
But their happiness together was not meant to last. Tragically it was but a year after this incident that Zainab passed away.
Abu al-’Aas was overtaken by grief and shed hot tears because of her death. His excessive grief drove those who were around him to tears. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) himself was overcome with grief, his eyes full of tears and his heart full of sorrow. Zainab’s death reminded him of the death of his beloved wife, Khadeejah. He then advised the women, who had gathered around Zainab’s lifeless body,
“Wash her three times and use camphor in the third wash.”
Muhammad (peace be upon him) performed his daughters funeral prayers and placed her in her final resting place.
Abu al-’Aas returned to his children, Ali and Umaymah. Kissing them and wetting them with his tears, he could not help but remember the face of his departed.
It was shared that Abu al-’Aas would cry so profusely that the people would see his tears affect the Prophet himself. Whereby he too would weep profusely while he attempted to calm his son in law down.
Abu al ‘Aas would say,
“By Allah, I can’t stand life anymore without my Zainab.
He died a year later, just one year after Zainab's death." (Taken from the Facebook page: HAPPY MUSLIM FAMILY)

May Allah unite us with the Prophet peace be upon him and his family in Jannah.

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Being Content

We should always remember that whatever that we have is from Allah and He shall take it away if He so Wills. Therefore, we should be grateful through word and action for all the blessings that we have, not forgetting the most important: Islam. As for whatever we don't have, be grateful for that as well, because Allah does whatever is best for us!
AlhamdulIllah 'aala kuli haal!




Tuesday, October 29, 2013

The Quran has all the answers...

Why am I being tested so much?
Quran answers: “Do men think that they will be left alone saying, ’We believe’, and that they will not be tested? We did test those before them, and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false.” [29:2-3]

Why do I never get what I want?
Quran answers: "It is possible that you dislike a thing which is good for you, and that you love a thing, which is bad for you. But Allah knows, while you know not.” Surah Al-Baqarah [2:216]

Why am I burdened this way?
Quran answers: “Allah does not place a burden to a soul greater than it can bear. It gets every good that it earns, and it suffers every ill that it earns.” Surah Al-Baqarah [2:286]
AND
“So verily, with every difficulty there is relief: (repeated) Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.” Surah Al-Insyirah [94:5-6]

Why do I lose hope?
Quran answers: “So lose not heart, nor fall into despair…” Surah Al-Imran [3:139]

How can I face the problems in life?
Quran answers: "O you who believe! Persevere in patience and constancy; vie in such perseverance; strengthen each other; and fear Allah that you may prosper.” Surah Al- Imran [3:200] AND
“And seek (Allah’s) help with patience, perseverance and prayer: It is indeed hard, except to those who bring a humbly submissive (to Allah).” Surah Al-Baqarah [2:45]

What do I get for all these I'm going through?
Quran answers: “Indeed, Allah has purchased from the believers their lives and properties (in exchange) for that they will have the garden (of Paradise) …” Surah At-Taubah [9:111]

On whom can I depend?
Quran answers: “(Allah) suffices me: there is no god but He: On Him is my trust- He the Lord of the Throne (of Glory) Supreme.” Surah At-Taaubah [9:129]

But I can’t take it anymore!
Quran answers: “…and never give up hope of Allah’s Soothing Mercy; truly No one despairs of Allah’s Soothing Mercy except Those who have no faith.” Surah Yusuf [9:87] AND
“Despairs not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives All sins for He is Often- For giving, Most Merciful.” Surah Az-Zumar [39:53]

source: niqablovers.blogspot.com
Lets make the best of Winters In shaa Allah. 
Cheers to cozy blankets and hot chocolate! AlhamdulIllah <3



Wednesday, October 23, 2013

The world is but a short dream...

"I am lying on the bed. My children, brothers and sisters are all sitting by my bedside. Some close friends too are standing and overlooking my face. Suddenly I start breathing with long breaths. Someone among the people sitting in the room starts to recite, Surah Ya'siin. Everyone around repeats with the reciter. My breath starts to ease out. I am opening my eyes and looking at something. Angel of death has arrived. I am getting late for the eternal journey. My mouth has opened up. My brother is dropping some water into my mouth, it is perhaps the "Zam Zam" water which I had preserved for the very moment.
Then everyone starts to recite, "Laa'ilaaha illallaaha Muhammadur Rasoolullaah". I have lost my vision. I have lost my tongue, I have even lost my sensation but I can still hear. I can hear my loved ones weeping in grief. I'm not dead yet but I am almost lifeless. Angel of death makes the final act and takes my soul out with an intensive jerk. I have now left this world.

All my wealth, cars, properties, bank balances, contacts and connections are of no use now. My identity is my grave and I am being referred to as 'dead body'. My near ones are preparing my grave and some of them think it as inauspicious to keep the dead body inside the house for too long. The house which I myself built and lived in is shrinking in space for me. My bath is being prepared. I am taken out in the compound for the final bath. My bathroom fitted with expensive bath fittings is not for me now.
I am being wrapped in the white cotton shroud. For the travel to my grave. My expensive car is not for me now.

For what then did I amass so many worthless things. Why did I lie to earn the useless wealth. It is of no use to me. Woe to me for I wasted my life in vain. I forgot that my last journey is near and certain. Why did I sin so much ? Oh! I have lost my game.

Now stop imagining.

This is going to happen one day with you and me. So be prepared. Good deeds will make your journey and the life of the Hereafter pleasant. Remember death. It is certain. It is so near. This world is just a short dream." 
via Shaykh Zahir Mahmood

Thursday, September 19, 2013

Niqab: My real freedom

I found this post on a blog called Niqabi Nuances (Niqab lovers) and felt that it described my thoughts perfectly. May Allah reward the sister who wrote this.

The other day in Madrasa, we were given a lecture on how thankful we are to be chosen as Muslims. Whatever people might say about Islam doesn’t affect us because we know that Islam has raised women, dignified them and shown them what it is to lead a respectful life. They might say Islam oppresses women by jailing them within their homes and making them wear the Hijab and Niqab but being a Muslim, all of us know in the heart of our hearts, that without Islam, our lives would hold no value whatsoever.

Well, to talk about the lecture, our teacher told us about sexual exploitation of women-which can be seen ever so apparently on movies, magazine covers, advertisements, newspapers, you name it. Why do scantily dressed women appear for a motorcycle tyre advert? It’s just not related is it? But then that’s how the world sees it- Women (or rather half naked women) are what boosts their commercialism. Women are no longer women. They are just toys and commercial products made and beautified for men to enjoy. Take models for example. They are nothing more than walking mannequins to showcase their bodies and clothes. The other day I came across an article where a famous model was asked to walk down the ramp with a million dollar bra encrusted with diamonds. The answer she gave was just shocking! She said that she was truly honoured to walk down the ramp with such a valuable piece. SubhanAllah! What is this world really coming to? Selling their bodies to market underwear! And this is what they call liberation. Liberation from what? From their clothing, their dignity, their respect and their morals? If this is their idea of liberation, I swear, I’m more than honoured to be a Niqabi and with each passing day, I realize the value of my Niqab more than ever!

The problem with people is that they easily believe that freedom is what is stereotyped by the media. They think that by wearing such clothes, hanging out with boyfriends, partying, drinking and dancing is what freedom really is. If they are living a life of complete freedom, why is that suffer so much from depression, which, in most cases, leads to suicide? Is it all an overdose of freedom for them? All these people know very, very well that it’s them who are living a caged life-a life of oppression where they are exploited for their beauty and thrown away like toys afterwards. What has their sense of freedom actually given them? If anything, it has only lead them towards a life that is controlled by men and their desires.

Some people might pity us for wearing the Niqab, because they believe that by wearing it, we are being oppressed. We, Niqabis, on the other hand pity them because their glitzy lifestyle is taking them nowhere. Tell me, who should be pitied? Us, Niqabis who are covered up perfectly at our own will and who do not allow men to exploit us in any way possible or these half naked women who are being enjoyed by men, and later dumped away like trash?

That same day after this lecture in Madrasa when I was returning home, I caught sight of a poster on the wall, where 4 women were all dressed in barely anything at all. Men, who were passing by, were all gazing openly at it. I couldn’t help but utter a heartfelt, ‘Alhamdulillah’ and I prayed to Allah that He guides all these women with Hidayah (Islamic Guidance). I sincerely thanked Allah that He didn’t make me one of those women who’s pictures where plastered unashamedly on the roads. I thanked Allah that He dignified me as a Muslimah. I thanked Allah that He gave me shame and Haya. I thanked Allah that He gave me Islam and I thanked Allah that He chose for me to be Niqabi- someone who chooses what men see of her and what they don’t. And isn’t this what freedom is after all?

The BEST fudgy chocolate brownies ever!

Assalam o Alaykum!

If you don't know yet, I'm a big fan of baking! Partly because of my sugar cravings and partly because I enjoy it. Yesterday, I started craving some hot fudgy chocolate brownies with whipped cream. It was then that I started looking through my mom's old recipe diary, trying to find her recipe, the one she has been using for the past 5 years. I baked it as soon as I had time and they turned out slightly crispy on the top and fudgy on the inside, ya'ni almost perfect alhamdulIllah!

Here's the complete recipe:
Ingredients:
3/4 cup unsweetened cocoa powder (I like to use Cadbury's so they turn out even yummier!)
1/2 teaspoon baking soda
1/3 + 1/3 cup vegetable oil
1/2 boiling water
2 cups white sugar
2 eggs
1 1/3 cups all purpose flour
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1/4 teaspoon fine salt

Method:
1. Preheat oven to 175 degree Celsius. Grease and line a 9"x13" baking pan.
2. In a large bowl, stir together the cocoa powder and baking soda. Add  1/3 cup vegetable oil and boiling water. Mix until well blended and thickened.
3. Stir in the sugar, eggs and the remaining 1/3 cup oil.
4. Finally add the flour, vanilla and salt. Mix just until all the flour is absorbed. Do not over mix!
5. Spread evenly into the prepared pan.
6. Bake for 35-40 minutes or until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean. Allow to cool before cutting into squares.

These are best served with whipped cream. Enjoy!
I couldn't take a picture myself but here is what they precisely look like. (Image source: Google)